Maggyann said

Yesterday I used my Visa Debit card to purchase some stuff at the local shop £29.07. The transaction didn’t go through which has never happened to me before so the chap said we’d do it again which we did and all was well. Today I checked my account online and it has been taken out twice. I got onto the bank who said I should have a Void slip for the first transaction which I didn’t know and of course didn’t have. I had to go back to the shop and wait while he went through his bin. Eventually he found it and now it is with the bank to get it sorted but it will take up to 10 days at least they say. Great eh? I am down nearly £30 through no fault of mine until the great banking institution can be bothered to sort it out. The first slip says in big letters Transaction Not Authorised so it should never have been taken from my account. What a damned annoying world this. Sorry Rant over!

Warning to all though to make sure you get a VOID slip if this happens to you.

Been through this crap myself Maggy, it’s annoying. Grrrr But rest assured the bank will sort it out. It’s a glitch in the shop’s money server. Basically the first transaction had gone through, but the message from the money server (middleman) sent the shop a declined message. In short there was a hiccup in Middleman’s and shop’s computers messaging system. These middleman’s computers are a pain in the arse at times.
A few weeks ago I ended up paying for someone else’s shopping because of a gremlin in the middleman’s computer. Thankfully we got it sorted very quickly. So I hope that you will too..

To a certain degree I can completely ignore the pain, basically because I refuse to think about it, and strangely enough I found listening to music helps me to block it out.. I’ve tried practically every painkiller there is and after a while they simply stop working, my body simply gets used to them.
The doctor does on the odd occation give me morphine, but as I’m only 46, he won’t allow me to have them on a long term purpose.
Anyhow I refuse to let it rule my life. I’m it’s master not the other way round.
Your’ll get there Maggy just take one day at a time, Rome wasn’t built in a day and everyday you are stronger than the day before I hope you understand what I’m trying to say..
My brother in law had 3 massive strokes, literely one after the other about 10 years back and although he has been left permentely disabled by them, he’s defied the doctors expectations as they said the best he would get from his life is 5 years, and he wouldn’t walk or speak again.. Yeah right he can walk and he swears at me enough to say quite confidently enough that yes he can talk alright LOL..
The doctors don’t always get things right after all this crap in my back started when I was 19 in a very bad RTA in short I nearly died, the Doctors told me I would never walk again or have kids.. Yeah I can walk albeit very slowly with the aid of a stick, and I’ve had 4 kids. After I had my last child when I was 27, they said I would be n a wheelchair by 35.. 11 Years later I’m still walking…
It all boils down to having a possitive mental attitude, I want to walk and I will walk I don’t care if it takes me 5 mins to walk to the end of our road or an hour I will do it, because I can…Does that make sence?

I wonder in this day and age if doctors trot out the worse case scenario due to the hungry vultures called lawyers who are ready to pounce on any ‘misdiagnosis’

Just readig all your stories has touched my heart and made me realise just how lucky I really am.

The strength of the human spririt is something that Doctors simply don’t understand. As human’s we can adapt very quickly to deal with disablilties and infirmaties. There was a elderly lady I was talking to a few weeks back, and she was jumping about like a rubber ball, the lady had Osteoporsis, and arthurtis, but like me refused point blank to allow it to rule her life, Wonderful Lady.
A few weeks back in The Sun newspaper there was a little girl born who whilst in the womb was diagnosed as having missing parts of her brain, the Doctor’s told the woman it would be best for her to abort, as the child would be unlikely to have much hope of survival past birth.. Yeah right, that little girl is 3 now, she can walk talk and do anything that a normal 3 old child can do, the reason being is because the little girls brain adapted itself and rewired itself to compensate for the missing parts.
Sharon good for your parents telling the doctor’s to sod off about wanting to put you in a special home for disabled people. Unfortunely this used to happen a lot years ago when a child was born with a handicap. It was the doctor’s way of throwing you in the bin if that makes sence.
Keep strong and keep going, just because you may not be as mobile as those without disablities doesn’t mean that you are stupid, our brains still work, and judging by some of your comments, I would say you have an extremely high IQ rating too.
Trouble is one of things that really frosts my cookies is when people talk down to you or treat you like a child just because you have a disability..
Grrrrr I just want to jump up and tear their hair out. For flip”s sake we may have a disablity but we ain’t stupid, Brain dead or dead. Make sence?
That’s where my sister comes in, she really gets my goat sometimes, as she will talk down to Tony (My last post) whereas I just talk to him as I did before he had his strokes, although of course asking him a question does take time to get an answer, and genrally involes a lot of swearing at me LOL.. I asked him a few weeks back if he had a screwdriver I could borrow. “Yes” he said then he said “What type do you want you big fat bitch” there was no malice involved it’s just how he is, and I love him for it too..

Boleyn,
Thank you for the compliment. Sod off means Go to hell, right? LOL Cuz when the doctors, the priests, and the nuns were trying to convince my parents to send me to that place, those are the words my mother used. ( I was born at a Catholic hospital) And I learned from her how to treat people who were like that. It wasn’t only doctors. Later on it was teachers and one very prejudice boss. Talk about being treated like a child. However, they all lost their battles against me. I learned how to fight back.
I love the story of the three year old. What a little blessing she must be.
Neil and Boleyn,
Your mother and brother sound like wonderful people. I’m glad you have them in your lives. I don’t mean to put doctors down. I’ve had a few that I love. Well…one anyway! My friends and family have been my support system. None of them ever said I couldn’t do something. I’ve done many things that many people wouldn’t attempt and there are many things left to do.
Bill,
That worse case scenario…I don’t know where it comes from. I think doctors lump everyone into categories. If they see a person with a disability, or what they call a handicap, they put you in their preconceived notion of what will happen. They don’t look deep enough to see the person they are treating.
My point in writing was to tell everyone here that you guys are the best. Maggyann, you will get better and better with each day, and your writing is top notch!
I agree with Neil on his last statement.